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Admit When You are Wrong

(Nurturing Real Growth: Christian Discipline Series – Part 3*)

We make no claims as teachers or parents to be perfect. We make mistakes. Let’s use those opportunities to model how to respond and apologise when it is appropriate. It provides a sense of vulnerability and reality for our students or children and one that they appreciate. The challenge is for us to swallow our pride, recognise when we need to sort things out, and lead by example. This is an aspect of true education when we portray Christianity in action.

The Home Economics teacher was away and as the Deputy Principal, I was supervising her Sewing Class. I quietly roamed around the room making sure they were productive and working effectively. Anna came in ten minutes late. I greeted her, established why she was late and then told her what we were doing and asked her to commence working. She went over and sat near Simon.

I was only four or five metres away from the group, watching them, when I saw Anna grab the cutting board that Simon was using and then use it herself. I was almost certain she had not asked him for it. He appeared surprised it had been so abruptly taken from him.

Immediately I walked over to Anna and asked her if she had asked Simon if she could use the cutting board. She said, “No, I didn’t.” I then asked her to please return the cutting board to Simon as that was his to use and she had not asked appropriately. Begrudgingly she did so. She then returned to her seat and sat there sulking. After a few minutes, I sat down beside her to learn more.

She looked at me and asked, “Did you hear what he said to me?” I had to confess I did not. So then I asked her to share with me what had so clearly upset her. With a long history in school together, they oscillated between being great mates and bitter enemies. He had shared some very inappropriate comments, hence her immediate reaction to grab the cutting board.

I asked Simon to join us; he acknowledged what he had said. Due judgment was delivered and I apologised to Anna for not dealing with it fairly at the time. The next day her mother told me that Anna had told her that for the first time in her life, a teacher had apologised to her.

Nathan told King David to go ahead and build the temple for God. But then he had to go back and say to David, “I ran ahead of God. You are not going to be able to build the temple after all.” There are times when we have the best of intentions as parents or teachers, and yet we make a wrong judgement call. How will our children and students learn to rectify their mistakes if we do not model it for them?

Jesus provides absolute forgiveness but then also empowers us to change. That is what we need to portray to the people we interact with. Forgive and then expect the best. It is important that we provide a sense of how to sort things out when they go wrong for us. That level of vulnerability is just what our children and students need.

Reflect:

It is his [the teacher/parent’s] ambition to inspire them [students/children] with principles of truth, obedience, honor, integrity, and purity—principles that will make them a positive force for the stability and uplifting of society. He desires them, above all else, to learn life’s great lesson of unselfish service. (Ellen White, Education, p. 29)

This is the third in a series of ten reflections on important components of redemptive Christian discipline. All the newsletters are available in newsletter format through CIRCLE.adventist.org

David McClintock

David McClintock has served as a Bible teacher for most of his professional life. He has also been principal of six schools and a Conference and Union Education Director. He has twice returned full time to the High School Bible classroom from administration and has stepped back from being the Associate Education Director at the South Pacific Division when he was invited to be the principal at Avondale School, Australia, as school land is what he enjoys. He most enjoys engaging learners in knowing, loving and serving God. In July 2019, he was appointed the SPD Education Director.
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